I'm more of a prude than any of you! - Page 3

Drake Tungsten · January 13, 2004, 08:42

Damn, and my respect levels for you had just jumped through the roof...

Agathon · January 13, 2004, 08:43

I've had a few attached women. Frankly I don't feel too good about it, although it felt pretty good at the time.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 08:46

I feel fine about it.

I never made a promise to the guy to never **** his girlfriend.

I've also never cheated and never will

Agathon · January 13, 2004, 09:01

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Originally posted by KrazyHorse
I feel fine about it.

I never made a promise to the guy to never **** his girlfriend.

Neither did I. Doesn't make it right.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 09:02

Why not? She's an adult. She broke the promise.

Unless he were a friend I would have no moral qualms about it.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 09:04

One of them lived a few hundred metres from me, but I'd never met him before. We rode on the bus alone for 5 minutes one time after he found out. I smiled at him the whole time. That might have been a bit much. I sort of feel bad about that.

Drake Tungsten · January 13, 2004, 09:04

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Frankly I don't feel too good about it, although it felt pretty good at the time.

I'm the same way, but only with the married one. Boyfriends don't matter.

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Unless he were a friend I would have no moral qualms about it.

Spiffor · January 13, 2004, 09:35

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Originally posted by Albert Speer
I've kissed (on the lips) twice.

Tsk, newbie. I had kissed less than you at your age

Agathon · January 13, 2004, 09:39

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Originally posted by Drake Tungsten

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Frankly I don't feel too good about it, although it felt pretty good at the time.

I'm the same way, but only with the married one. Boyfriends don't matter.

It depends on how serious the relationship was. If you really think cheating is wrong, you won't do it. But if you really think it is morally wrong, then it's not OK for anyone to do it or for anyone to knowingly effect it - including you. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and see how you would like it.

Of course it's case relative. If it's the torrid beginning of what will be the long term love affair of your life it's perfectly all right since no decent person would wish to stand in the way of such a thing.

Then again, it's not a really big deal; rather a minor moral crime.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 09:40

I think it's morally wrong to break a promise of any kind.

Spiffor · January 13, 2004, 09:43

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Originally posted by KrazyHorse
Les Foufounes Electricques

That's a hell of a name

Is that a stripper club?

Verto · January 13, 2004, 09:44

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Originally posted by Comrade Tassadar

OK, people aren't quite understanding it when I say:

I am NOT a Mormon!

But I am, so I think I win.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 09:45

Used to be a rough-and-tumble gay bar. Then it was raided by the police about a dozen times on charges of lewd publice behaviour. Then it turned into a biker bar. Now it's a punk bar with some bikers and students in it.

Agathon · January 13, 2004, 09:47

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Originally posted by KrazyHorse
I think it's morally wrong to break a promise of any kind.

Yeah, that and knowingly contributing to someone else doing it.

Well I'm a tired old virtue ethicist. At root, I think it is unhealthy for people to act that way - it corrupts one's character. Not a great deal, but it still does.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 09:47

http://www.foufounes.qc.ca/

Drake Tungsten · January 13, 2004, 09:49

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At root, I think it is unhealthy for people to act that way - it corrupts one's character. Not a great deal, but it still does.

I figure I'm too far gone to care at this point...

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 09:49

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Originally posted by Agathon

Yeah, that and knowingly contributing to someone else doing it.

Well I'm a tired old virtue ethicist. At root, I think it is unhealthy for people to act that way - it corrupts one's character. Not a great deal, but it still does.

Does it matter that one was my ex and I enjoyed knowing I was ****ing up her current relationship because she was a psycho *****?

Agathon · January 13, 2004, 10:00

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Originally posted by KrazyHorse

Does it matter that one was my ex and I enjoyed knowing I was ****ing up her current relationship because she was a psycho *****?

If you like revenge. I don't or at least I think I shouldn't and I don't like it when I do.

About promises.

Trust is required for real human relationships. If other people break that trust it's bad for me; but if I break a solemn promise I'm basically making myself into a person who can't even trust himself and by my own values into someone I would hold in contempt. Who would want to be the sort of person who couldn't even believe their own utterances?

It's like lying, the more you do it, the easier and more habitual it becomes.

molly bloom · January 13, 2004, 10:01

Ha ha, Krazyhorse, my friends in Canada told me about Les Foufounes, and I thought it was a fantastic name for a gay bar. Trust those French Canadians- once they got rid of that rural Catholic stranglehold, they certainly let rip.

Well Speer, you is a *****. I've had sexual intercourse on four continents with a variety of men, one or two married men at that, multiple races/nationalities, multiple partners simultaneously, been to several orgies, drank copious amounts of alcohol (including a date palm liqueur that still manages to instil fear in me at the thought of drinking it again) and tried some recreational drugs.

I have yet to have sex with a woman though.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 10:01

That's why I don't break promises.

I cannot be responsible for contracts others sign.

Skanky Burns · January 13, 2004, 10:07

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Does it matter that one was my ex and I enjoyed knowing I was ****ing up her current relationship because she was a psycho *****?

Now you have gone up in my estimation.

Agathon · January 13, 2004, 10:12

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Originally posted by KrazyHorse
That's why I don't break promises.

I cannot be responsible for contracts others sign.

No one said you were. But do you think you should knowingly help others to break them? That is doing them a disservice.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 10:14

Indeed. The worse other people are the easier it is to feel good about myself.

I fail to see a downside here.

Agathon · January 13, 2004, 10:15

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Indeed. The worse other people are the easier it is to feel good about myself.

I don't buy that one. It sounds like making excuses for being bad.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 10:17

Hmm...

How to make myself look worse here?

I flirted endless with a girl who was on a robotics team that I was mentoring (despite which she was good-looking).

I was 20, she was 17 and dating the head of the team (also 17)

She ended up breaking up with him, and dropped me a line a week later, but I never responded because I was already busy dating my current gf.

Drake Tungsten · January 13, 2004, 10:19

Well, at least you didn't sleep with her once and then never call. You're a good man, KrazyHorse.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 10:19

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Originally posted by Agathon

I don't buy that one. It sounds like making excuses for being bad.

You have obiously not mastered doublethink yet.

Seriously, though, I feel neither good nor bad about aiding in cheating. I might feel bad if I helped to hurt the kids in her relationship or something.

That wouldn't be cool. Everything else is fair game.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 10:20

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Originally posted by Drake Tungsten
Well, at least you didn't sleep with her once and then never call. You're a good man, KrazyHorse.

I was already getting some. No need to mess around.

Drake Tungsten · January 13, 2004, 10:21

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I was already getting some. No need to mess around.

A real bastard would've done it anyway, though, just because he could. You're just a big softie.

KrazyHorse · January 13, 2004, 10:22

I admit it would be a better story, but I'm weak.