a story about a girl and two roommates

connorkimbro · April 1, 2003, 07:17

ah. . . yeah. so here's a situation for you.

roommates (both stationed overseas) girl. roommate #1 has a girlfriend back in the states. roommate #2 is single.

now, roommate #1 starts talking to this girl, spends a bit of time with her, she starts to like him. roommate #2 meets her as well, of course, and is friendly with her, but not invasive. roommate #1 says to #2 that he doesn't really like girl, but he'll just keep her around for entertainment. girl says to #2 one night at a bar that she kinda likes him too. #2 doesn't really want to interfere, and doesn't really like her "in that way", though she is attractive. all the while #1 is saying how he doesn't really like girl, he just likes the attention, etc. meanwhile, he is traveling with (and ****ing) other girls, maintaining his longdistance relationship, etc. AND, girl thinks that #1 does like her, at least a little. so, #2, seeing an opportunity, asks #1 "hey, if you're not gonna do anything with girl, I'm gonna talk to her. roommate #1 says "sure, go ahead"

so, one day, while #1 is traveling, and away for the evening, girl hangs out with #2. thinks go well. sex happens (multiple times) and girl gets scared. she likes #1 also, and doesn't want him to find out. #2, thinking with his ****, agrees not to tell him. after all, #1 said he didn't care, and that he doesn't like her, and if he DOES say anything, girl might not sleep with him again. so, he doesn't say anything.

time passes. #1 and girl continue hanging out, and girl grows to like him more and more. all the while, hanging out with other girls, and not telling her, and she doesn't know he has a girlfriend, and she thinks she IS his girlfriend, even though he tell's everyone else she's not his girlfriend. (he tell's everyone except her, that is)

#2 finds this out. he really doesn't want to interfere, but this girl is not being treated right. she's totally in the dark, and doesn't know ANYTHING about #1's involvement with other girls, she think's they're "together", and he's letting her think that. so #2, trying to look out for girl, tell's her what is going on.

she get's pissed off, of course. but then, instead of acting like a rational thinker, she acts on emotion (like the stupid dumb ****ing **** ***** that she is) and tells #1 everything, confronts him about it. and tells him that she slept with #2.

so now, to #1's perspective, #2 is both cockblocking and buddy ****ing. girl told him all this because she really WANTS to be with #1, inspite how how horribly he's treating her. #2, even though he was only trying to look out for girl's best interests, gets **** on.

what do you think? should #2 have involved himself at all? what do you think #2 should do now?

MarkG · April 1, 2003, 07:25

are you #1, #2 or the girl?

connorkimbro · April 1, 2003, 07:26

am i the girl? hell no! i'm not some skanky ***** ass ****ing **** ho. i'm #2.

FrustratedPoet · April 1, 2003, 07:29

Have you told #1 the whole story from your point of view yet?

connorkimbro · April 1, 2003, 07:32

nope. he doesn't even care to hear it. he's not speaking to me. ****ing **** ass dumb *****. . . errr, i mean, "girl" told him a bunch of lies, and basically lied about her whole involvement with me, AS WELL AS, lied about exactly what i told her, to him in order to get him to like her again.

FrustratedPoet · April 1, 2003, 07:36

Well, clearly you need to talk to him about it, but God knows it can't be easy when he's as upset as he is. No alternatives spring immeditely to mind, however. Perhaps in a week or two he'll calm down enough that you can at least get him to speak to you.

I'm assuming these are very recent events...

connorkimbro · April 1, 2003, 07:41

well, her saying all this ****, and him finding out this stuff is within the last week, yeah, although it was about 2 months ago that i slept with her.

red_jon · April 1, 2003, 07:54

Kill her. Make sure the corpse is hidden well. Don't make the same mistake I did.

red_jon · April 1, 2003, 07:57

Seriously though, you shouldn't really have gotten involved with the girl.

#It might blow over though - if your roomate didn't like the girl, the only problem is that he feels you betrayed him - obviously trying to explain the situation to him would be best - and make it clear that you don't like the ho.

MarkG · April 1, 2003, 07:59

the main issue: you should have used "A" and "B". or "George" and "Tony"

red_jon · April 1, 2003, 08:01

Then who would the girl be? Chirac?

CerberusIV · April 1, 2003, 08:02

Play hardball. If you try and explain it may seem like you accept some blame. Point out it is largely his own fault for stringing the dumb *** along and leave him to cool down.

red_jon · April 1, 2003, 08:04

That'll just piss him off. On the other hand, you don't want to give him the moral highground completely.

MarkG · April 1, 2003, 08:05

Quote:

Originally posted by red_jon
Then who would the girl be? Chirac?

huh? i just put two random names

CerberusIV · April 1, 2003, 08:06

If/when he cools down a bit then try slowly feeding him your version a bit at a time.

Messer Niccolò · April 1, 2003, 08:25

be clear. Stat your reasons and if #1 doesn't want to hear well... it's his fault probably your "friend" isn't worth the time you're spending on the whole question...

PS: this story is astonishing....

C0ckney · April 1, 2003, 08:55

ok, who else thought this was going to be one of those written porn stories...

Messer Niccolò · April 1, 2003, 08:57

Quote:

Originally posted by C0ckney
ok, who else thought this was going to be one of those written porn stories...

yes yes, more details more details...

DeathByTheSword · April 1, 2003, 09:01

well dont tell him if he doesnt want to hear it....i think you should have told her a long time ago about what guy 1 is....and well your in college so who really cares....everybody ****s with everbody

Rufus T. Firefly · April 1, 2003, 09:05

Well, obviously, you need to find a #3 who can seduce the girl at a time and place when #1 will walk in on them.

Alternatively, there's the "secretely-send-#1's-girlfriend-a-plane-ticket-so-that-she-can-'surprise'-him" gambit.

If I have any other evil inspirations, I'll let you know.

MikeH · April 1, 2003, 09:10

Hey, #2 got laid!

Elok · April 1, 2003, 09:37

Oog. My head hurts just reading that bloody story. Have you considered just saying "screw it" and moving on? I can't imagine anything you could say that wouldn't just make the whole situation even more of a tangled mess.
BTW, if you're gonna do stuff like this to yourself, you might want to consider becoming a eunuch. Probably less painful in the long run. I don't want to lecture you, but relationships are complicated enough without this international intrigue BS. Stick to unattached, clear-thinking, non-borderline tail from now on if you're gonna screw around, man.

LTEC! · April 1, 2003, 10:14

Dumbass.

If you REALLY liked the girl enough for her to be happy and wouldn't have looked out for your own best interest. (ie, keeping your roomates friendship(sp)/keeping her in the dark about him sneaking around on her) maybe there would have been a remote possibility that you would have had a shot at her.

Second. Be honest. Girls don't like being treated like they're toys or property. If you like someone do tell them so, and then let THEM have a choice on what they want to do.

Third. Screwing or falling for your roomates girl isn't cool. Why didn't you tell your friend to outright dump the girl so you could have a shot at her? It makes you and your roomate look like sleazy bastards by playing her into your own motives.

And noone wants to be with a dumb, egotistical, lying, cheating, sleazy bastard. That's why you didn't get the girl.

red_jon · April 1, 2003, 10:16

Now you're just being mean.

LTEC! · April 1, 2003, 10:20

You mean me mean?

I thought you read the story, redjon. He's asking for advice and opinions. Why else would you bother posting a story where you got burned?
Even if it seems that it may be worded in not so nice statements, the truth is the truth and some people could really make good use of it.

SpencerH · April 1, 2003, 10:22

Strangely enough I have experience with a similar situation in the 70's (although I was #4, a friend of #1 #2 and #3). If #1 is a close friend he'll dump #3 or maybe offer a #3some. After all, he doesnt really care about her, right? If #1 is not a close friend or doesnt want to dump her just say adios and find another roommate these Peyton-Place things can go on forever. It gets really weird when #1 marries #3 but still screws around with #5 while #3 screws around with #6,7,8,9,10,11....... while #1 is off fighting for freedom (thats what happened then).

EDIT: ****, got the numbers wrong

which was even weirder than the real thing

Rufus T. Firefly · April 1, 2003, 10:25

Have you considered engineering an international incident along the DMZ? That should get everyone's mind off of this little soap opera.

Spec · April 1, 2003, 10:32

This sounds like an Avril Lavigne song....

"He was a boy, she was a girl...can I get anymore obvious..."

Dump the ***** and get on with it....you're just jealous of Mr.1 cuz he has all the fun. And he's jealous because for once, he did not succed alone where he should have.
Grow up people.
Bltches like that only use sex to get interesting or get attention.
How can you not know this......

Spec.

Arrian · April 1, 2003, 10:43

That is some ****ed up ****.

Spend some time writing it up properly, and sell it to a TV network for use in a sitcom or TV movie. At least then you might get rich.

#1 sounds like an *******. Girl sounds... kinda pathetic. You... probably should have been straight-up with her a long time ago, but at this point have blown that. So walk away (says me from the comfort of my keyboard).

-Arrian

rah · April 1, 2003, 10:44

In general, long time friends are more important that the (flavor of the month) girls. In a couple of similar situations, we have always been able to convince ourselves that if the girl slept with both of us than she must be a tramp and not worth our attention.

Yes, not necessarily true, but useful in helping us repair any hard feelings. I'm still good friends with one of the guys after 30 years.

Now if the girl is THE GIRL, then do what you must. Or if the friend is just a guy, also do what you must.

RAH