Would you ever...

GePap · July 15, 2003, 22:14

Ok, so let me give the backstory:

On Sunday I was traveling downtown on the subway to see a flick. A very attractive woman gets in (When I mean very, well, lets just say that she looked like Central casting had handpicked her to fill the role of "sultry latin seductress in tight red dress"). A stop later we both get off. Now, obviously most nearby male heads turn to look, but one guys not only turns to look, but stops, follows her, and as we are all going up the stairs, He compliments her on her looks. Now, she recieves the compliment politely but coldly (given that the man was way out of his league here).

The question is, would you ever, in a purely public space, go up to anyone you found stuningly attractive and either flirt, or try to pick them up? (or, as if anyone here were stunningly attractive...what would you do if you recieved such a compliment, or attention in a very public place?)

SlowwHand · July 15, 2003, 22:16

Public place is much preferred to desolate place.
Sure. Worst she can say is no.

Nubclear · July 15, 2003, 22:19

I wouldn't go up to someone else unless the situation merited it.

If someone were to compliment me, I would simply say thank you and leave very quickly.

SlowwHand · July 15, 2003, 22:22

Committed to life-long spinsterhood?
:lol

Pekka · July 15, 2003, 22:24

Sure. Most likely not, but possibly. First I'll just try my eye games, trying to get a smile. I'm really bad at the original eye games, but I have my own style.. it's unique and interesting. It's basically funny, and if she gives accepting smile 'yes it was funny' then I'll move in fast and introduce myself. If no smile, then I leave her alone.
I don't do this often so.. but every now and then sure if I'm in a good mood.

Pekka · July 15, 2003, 22:25

Also, if you make the move, you got to make it fast or you end up not doing it. Then if you get a cold shoulder, just say 'I know where you live' into her ear and vanish in to the crowd.

GePap · July 15, 2003, 22:28

You do realize doing so would probalby get you in trouble? Specially since male cops would do anything to help such a damsel, right?

SlowwHand · July 15, 2003, 22:28

Good idea that, Pekka.
You sacre me and you're not even doing it to me.

Pekka · July 15, 2003, 22:31

Yeah but it's a joke for yourself. Too bad if she can't get it

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I mean.. how many 'want to go for a drink' she gets all the time? It's not original. 'I know where you live' and I guarantee she will be looking for you, she really wants to find you

Pekka · July 15, 2003, 22:39

what is sacre, and what am I not doing to you?

Ok, sleepy time.

Unspeakable Horror · July 15, 2003, 22:43

I think he meant "scare"

CorpusScorpius · July 15, 2003, 22:53

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Originally posted by SlowwHand
Public place is much preferred to desolate place.
Sure. Worst she can say is no.

Amen brother..........If she is that hot than think off all the idiots that are too scared to talk to her. She may be interested bcuz most people (men) would assume she is already taken.

connorkimbro · July 15, 2003, 22:58

pekka "i know where you live" would come across as incredibly threatening, at least in the US.

Dis · July 15, 2003, 23:10

I prefer just to drool at women

Ted Striker · July 15, 2003, 23:22

I've done it a few times actually.

Dis · July 15, 2003, 23:28

I would only flirt with women who are in my league. And I don't think women in my leagure are real attractive

connorkimbro · July 15, 2003, 23:29

i've done it. I usually find some small thing to talk about first though, i don't just start off like "nice shoes, wanna ****?" ya know?

CorpusScorpius · July 15, 2003, 23:46

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Originally posted by Dissident
I prefer just to drool at women

although its always better to drool in your mind not out in public

CorpusScorpius · July 15, 2003, 23:48

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Originally posted by Dissident
I would only flirt with women who are in my league. And I don't think women in my leagure are real attractive

Dis all women are in your league that goes with Confidence

Ben Kenobi · July 16, 2003, 00:50

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I would only flirt with women who are in my league. And I don't think women in my leagure are real attractive

Nah. The woman in the backstory is stuck-up, if that's how she receives a compliment. Give me someone who knows how to smile, and I'll show you someone in my league.

Dissident, why don't you think girls in your league are not pretty? I think you need to get out more, and find some girls in your league who are pretty.

Dis · July 16, 2003, 00:53

now where did my last post go? strange. It was nothing inflammatory that should get deleted btw.

loinburger · July 16, 2003, 01:00

I'm not much of a flirt -- I'll usually just smile at a pretty girl, which she can either interpret as my being friendly-in-a-non-threatening-way, or as my leering at her (my smile's a bit crooked, which makes it look more lecherous or roguish or whatever). They'll generally interpret it appropriately (e.g., if they wanted me to leer at them then they assume that I'm leering at them), which then leaves the initiation of flirting in their hands. So, I wouldn't have tried flirting with the chick in the first post, but it has nothing to do with the fact that we were in public at the time -- if anything, I'd think that public flirting would be better than private flirting: more awkward, but less threatening and more indicative of self-confidence.

And I agree with Obiwan -- I'd interpret the coldness from chick in the first post as her being stuck-up (unless the guy was blatantly staring at her ass or something).

monolith94 · July 16, 2003, 01:04

I once flirted for a couple of minutes with a very attractive Finnish women in a Finnish train... she was probably 7 years older than me too.

I was classy about it though. No drooling.

GePap · July 16, 2003, 01:05

Plenty of men were blantatly staring at everything on her. Maybe she gets more attention than she cares to get: hoenstly, for NY, the taking it politely was a surprise to me (as opposed to ignoring the man altogether). I found it surprosing becuase I do not think of subway platforms as "flirting space". I assume that people there want to be left alone, specially when moving in or out of the station.

Kramerman · July 16, 2003, 01:07

no. i suck at flirting. im just friendly and i be myself. i know nothing will happen anyway, and deep down i dont really care. it is nice whenever i get a smile tho

makes me feel good, even if it means nothing

loinburger · July 16, 2003, 01:16

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Originally posted by GePap
I found it surprosing becuase I do not think of subway platforms as "flirting space". I assume that people there want to be left alone, specially when moving in or out of the station.

Yeah, I hadn't really thought of that -- there are some places where I just don't expect anybody to talk to me (bus stations, the DMV, etc), and wind up confused and panicked if they just ask me something basic like "do you have a light" or "do you have the time" or whatever. If they said something along the lines of "nice ass" then I'd probably get a nosebleed or something.

geeslaka · July 16, 2003, 02:58

I don't ever expect anyone to talk to me so I'm always confused and pancaked.

Ben Kenobi · July 16, 2003, 03:14

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Yeah, I hadn't really thought of that -- there are some places where I just don't expect anybody to talk to me (bus stations, the DMV, etc),

I've met some nice people that way, just talking to them on the bus.

C0ckney · July 16, 2003, 03:52

yeah i've got talking to a few people on a bus, had some quality conversations as well

never picked up on a bus but i did meet one bird that way (and then saw her later and picked her up then

).

Pekka · July 16, 2003, 06:33

connorkimbro, naturally I was joking. I'd never do that.. that can leave the person frightened of her/his life and well.. give serious problems to someone. So no.. I'm not that evil

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