Who Pays On A Date...

[Oerdin]

Sure.

[Spiffor]

My gf and I have a deal. She pays for the pill, I pay for the condoms.
It turned out pretty much even

[Japher]

My gf and I have a deal. She pays for the pill, I pay for the condoms.
It turned out pretty much even

Does she have a low co-pay, or are you buying platinum studded condems?

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by Japher
Does she have a low co-pay, or are you buying platinum studded condems?

Let's just say I'm vigorous
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More seriously, condoms are damn expansive if you go for quality. ~0.80 € apiece.

[Japher]

You don't reuse them?!

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by Japher
You don't reuse them?!

I'll ask my gf what she thinks about it first

[Ari Rahikkala]

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[Spiffor]

@ Ari

[Japher]

It's more like whoever has to sit through a date with Park

[Elok]

If the entire point of dates was getting some tail and nothing more, you'd think men would have just switched to standard whore-shopping by now. Never had a GF(used to be I was just too much of a nerd, now there's also the fact that I don't know many girls who'd be worth the otherwise pointless bother of getting a real job/car/responsibility), so I don't know personally.

[Japher]

Elok, are you still a virgin?

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by Elok
If the entire point of dates was getting some tail and nothing more, you'd think men would have just switched to standard whore-shopping by now.

Nah. Non-whores are far superior, as you can have sex with them at your or their home. Much more comfortable

[Elok]

Don't see how that's any of your business, but if you really want to know, yes. It's actually not really hard to go without, once you get past the initial hump of learning mental discipline, and it saves you trouble. I might be interested in getting married if I meet someone I can talk to for more than two minutes in person without getting bored(who happens to be female-yes, I'm sure I'm straight), but the sleeping-around thing doesn't interest me. There's nothing I hate more than the shallowness and superficiality of getting-to-know-you crap, and I'm not about to drag myself through it voluntarily every few months, paying for a car, gas, insurance, etc. along the way, for something that takes less than an hour before it's over and exposes me to herpes. Screw that. Sex could feel like winning the bloody superbowl and it still wouldn't be worth the bother if it interrupts my otherwise perfectly contented existence.

[Spiffor]

I was perfectly contented when I was still a virgin (I was one of those "happy virgins", glad to be free and not to be dependent of the needs of the flesh)
And I can tell you not being a virgin anymore is very good when looking back. Sex, along with the relationship, sure helped me mature a lot and made me accept who I was. To have someone love you like you are, without you needing to show off, is an impressive plus

I hope you'll find that love too. But you won't find that love if you're not going to look for it. If you're ready to have meaningful relations, you'll have them

[Timexwatch]

Originally posted by Elok
Don't see how that's any of your business, but if you really want to know, yes. It's actually not really hard to go without, once you get past the initial hump of learning mental discipline, and it saves you trouble.

And masturbating three times a day...

There's nothing I hate more than the shallowness and superficiality of getting-to-know-you crap, and I'm not about to drag myself through it voluntarily every few months, paying for a car, gas, insurance, etc. along the way, for something that takes less than an hour before it's over and exposes me to herpes.

An hour?


Don't worry, we all go through dry spells (I'm going on more than a year, mostly self-imposed).

[Elok]

Originally posted by Timexwatch
And masturbating three times a day...
An hour?

I said an hour in a probably fruitless attempt to stave off whizzing contests about who does it the longest/quickest. I just sorta rattled off a number that sounded vague-"less than an hour" can be fifteen minutes or forty-five.
And actually, no, I don't jerk off either. I don't like to be under the control of anything but my mind, and that includes sexual addiction. I'm quite happy without it. It's a common misconception that all desire lasts forever. After a while ignoring it becomes utterly habitual and no more agonizing than brushing off bugs. It has to do with the way human beings can mentally adapt to nearly any circumstance over time. Look at (non-pederast) clergy. They go without, and seeing as monasteries aren't famous for constantly locked bathroom doors I'd say it doesn't cause too many problems.
The only thing I really want in that regard is company, and I've felt isolated for the last fifteen or so years of my life, so I don't think sex causes it. It's just my nature as an autistic. I'd like somebody I can relate to, but the sad fact is that such people are few and far between, outside of blood relatives. If I find such a person, and I probably will someday, it's marriage for me, not casual sex, which is more of a side-benefit in those circumstances.
And I think I know myself rather well as it is, Spiff. What I'm looking for is a kindred spirit, and somehow I think I'll know such a spirit when I see it. It's hard to explain, but I've met some who are close to a match and had that feeling, if you'll forgive the cold-blooded saying. Thanks anyway.

[Lorizael]

I definitely agree that men and women should pay equally, given that the sexes are supposed to be equal, but I don't believe that it's all a plot by evil women. It has to do with outdated societal standards introduced by the concept of chivalry a long time ago.

Culture takes a long time to change.

Oerdin: You say etiquette made it easier to know what was going on? Try communication. It's great stuff.

[Oerdin]

Originally posted by Spiffor
Nah. Non-whores are far superior, as you can have sex with them at your or their home. Much more comfortable

Not to mention the "payment" you make comes in the form of naughty nickers and trips to Corsica which you get to enjoy just as much as she does.

[Oerdin]

Originally posted by Elok
I might be interested in getting married if I meet someone I can talk to for more than two minutes in person without getting bored(who happens to be female-yes, I'm sure I'm straight), but the sleeping-around thing doesn't interest me.

Elok: I'm not trying to be down on you man but this sounds kind of like the old "I'm not trying excuse". That's where someone is scared to try or feels discouraged about past failure so he pretends he doesn't want to try because people can't say he's failing if he isn't trying. The truth is if you try you will succeed. There are lots of pretty girls who are your intellectual equal and all you have to do to meet them is walk up to them and say "Hi, my name is..."

[MrFun]

Thread's question is a toughie for me when I date . . .


does the man pay, or does the other man pay?

[Solly]

There are lots of pretty girls who are your intellectual equal and all you have to do to meet them is walk up to them and say "Hi, my name is..."

She might just think he's Eminem though.

[Japher]

I think Elok is doing just fine. He needs to be comfortable with himself before getting into a relationship. If he's not comfortable with himself then the relationship will either be too controling or ver uncomfortable... Yet, that is no reason not to date, no one said you have to marry girl... Though they are all rather strange.

[Oerdin]

She might just think he's Eminem though.

[Japher]

does the man pay, or does the other man pay?

MrFun, we all know your the beitch

[Solly]

Honestly though, you're best skipping the "my name is" bit until later. I make a habit of only asking girl's names when I am interested in them. Less names to remember that way.

Also, what is he going to say after "my name is..". OK, say that thing first. get straight into conversation rather than awkwardness.

[Oerdin]

The next step is always the hardest but usually honesty is the best policy. I once went up to a girl at the beach and started the conversation with "Hi, my name is..." and after we had introduced ourselves I cofessed that I'd been sitting over there for four or five minutes trying to think up an excuse to talk to her but when none came to mind I decided to just introduce myself. She laughed and said an introduction was so much better then a cheesy pick up line and I asked her about the worst lines guys had used on her. It was a good conversation; not good enough to get me laid but still it was a good confidence builder.

I also like try to pay attention to what she's doing because you'll often get clues about the things she's interested in; like was she playing volleyball? Maybe she has a tatoo or an unusual piece of jewelry which you can ask her about. Do you know any mutual friends or go to the same school? If you've got nothing else then talk about music or the movies anything which you are likely to have in common.

[MrFun]

Originally posted by Japher


MrFun, we all know your the beitch

For the last time -- Starchild is, not me.

[monolith94]

"It just proves that what women really want is cash."

And you want ***** (I assume). So they get cash and you get the night of unparalleled splendour. Sounds like a fair exchange to me.

[MrFun]

But that's called prostitution, monolith.

[Timexwatch]

Originally posted by MrFun
Thread's question is a toughie for me when I date . . .


does the man pay, or does the other man pay?

When you're ballroom dancing, who leads?